The Art of Flirting: How to Talk to Any Girl, Anywhere Without Being Cheesy

The Art of Flirting: How to Talk to Any Girl, Anywhere Without Being Cheesy

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Induce A Smile, Wait... Go
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Hit On Her Friend
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"Accidentally" Make Physical Contact
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Introduce Your Friend

Talking to girls isn’t rocket science.  And between work, commuting, and eating you're likely doing it everyday. But when it comes to approaching a girl you like and successfully flirting, it seems to become ridiculously more difficult. It’s not that talking is hard for you. It’s just that after enough snotty girls, rude insults, and all-night teases, the thought of flirting with new girl - and hoping for success - can sometimes bring up more than a few, fully understandable mental roadblocks.

It’s been said there are four basic ways to approach and flirt with girls:

  • Indirect – Starting a conversation without showing direct sexual interest
  • Observational & Situational – Comments about the weather, venue, or her
  • Humor – Because everyone loves a funny guy
  • Direct – The no-holds-back, no time wasted approach of putting it all out on the table at once

While it’s great to know the logic of how to approach and flirt with girls - and, sure, while most of this can be applied in one way or another - sometimes you need more than just the approach to guide you.

For your dating pleasure – and success rate – refer to these simple guidelines and examples that just about cover all grounds to approaching and flirting with girls. From bars to beaches, early mornings to late evenings, these eight ways of approaching girls will allow you to effortlessly flirt with any girl, anytime, anywhere. 


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The Art of Flirting: How to Talk to Any Girl, Anywhere Without Being Cheesy

The Art of Flirting: How to Talk to Any Girl, Anywhere Without Being Cheesy

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Talking to girls isn’t rocket science.  And between work, commuting, and eating you're likely doing it everyday. But when it comes to approaching a girl you like and successfully flirting, it seems to become ridiculously more difficult. It’s not that talking is hard for you. It’s just that after enough snotty girls, rude insults, and all-night teases, the thought of flirting with new girl - and hoping for success - can sometimes bring up more than a few, fully understandable mental roadblocks.

It’s been said there are four basic ways to approach and flirt with girls:

  • Indirect – Starting a conversation without showing direct sexual interest
  • Observational & Situational – Comments about the weather, venue, or her
  • Humor – Because everyone loves a funny guy
  • Direct – The no-holds-back, no time wasted approach of putting it all out on the table at once

While it’s great to know the logic of how to approach and flirt with girls - and, sure, while most of this can be applied in one way or another - sometimes you need more than just the approach to guide you.

For your dating pleasure – and success rate – refer to these simple guidelines and examples that just about cover all grounds to approaching and flirting with girls. From bars to beaches, early mornings to late evenings, these eight ways of approaching girls will allow you to effortlessly flirt with any girl, anytime, anywhere. 


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Ideally, an accessory you're actually intersted in and know a little something about, like a tablet or phone. Does she like the new iPhone 6, and why? What model iPad is that (because you are looking to buy one for a friend...)? What program is that she's running; What does it do? It's a little intrusive, sure, but most likely she'll be more than happy to entertain a conversation about something she's already doing (and predictably enjoying). Better yet you're not directly hitting on her. You're more, eh, hitting on her accessory?

 

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If you live in a city, you know the hassle of talking to girls is getting them to just hear you in the first place. When you're in a place where headphones are about as common as food, you have to improvise your approach. Instead of interrupting her music enjoyment with a cheesy line, ask her about something shes doing right then - What are you listening to? To continue the conversation, either comment on the music selection, or ask what the singer/band sounds like (which could lead to some cute ear bud sharring!)

 

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When girls are in groups, the judgement you'll receive is often multiplied. As an easy opener, tell a joke or make a comment that makes her friend laugh. By impressing her friends with a good laugh, you're likely to get an invite to join a conversation, which eventually you can break off into a conversation with her. 

 

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It sounds cheezy, but it works. First of all it's an easy way to get an introduction (and name) from her. Second, it isn't a direct come on, but opens up the floodgates to futher conversation. This works especially well if you have a friend visiting from out of town, or if you and your buddy are out celebrating something she may want to join in on. 

 

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Don't plow her over or make her spill her drink, but a little accidental contact can give you a good opportunity to talk to her. 'I'm sorry' or 'Excuse me' are perfectly accepted responses to such an accidental incident and her responses help you gauge her mood. If she seem open and lighthearded at the moment, go in for an introduction.  If she snappy and annoyed, it's probably not the best time to spark a conversation.   

 

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It's a little manipulative, but girls know how to do this (and they most certainly do it) all of the time. Sparking a little jealousy never hurts in the beginning of the flirting game and will get her to notice you more than if you just came up and approached her. Psychologically speaking, and because the grass is always greener, this tactic will make the girl you like want you even more, becasue at the moment she seems to not have you. 

 

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Sometimes opportunities pass us by. And if we don't go with our gut, we could be missing out majorly. If you're out and about and see a girl who catches you eye use this simple strategy. Compliment on something (anything) and wait for a smile. Make eye contact. Wait.... Now go. Before the mystery girl leavs your sight for good, go over talk. This is part is easy. You've already make her smile (great job) and now you can compliment her smile, or, if the vibe feels right, teasingly call her out on smiling at you, and move on to introduce yourself. Make it short, sweet, and then simply get her number. You've already sparked her interest and shown confidence, now let her think about you for the rest of the day. 

Editor: Fashion & Grooming, Sex & Dating, Motivation

Originally from the Midwest - and naturally an avid Michigan State University fan - Kara now resides in the hip East Village area in the heart of New York City.

Her BA in Media Arts and Technology, with a specialization in Games, Web and Interactive Media has taught her that you can try anything once (and that, sometimes, you really can live off delivery). As a tech blogger turned social commerce columnist, she thrives in covering digital retail innovations, tech-based product launches, and noteworthy B2C start-ups.

Kara also dives into lifestyle editorial, providing commentary and advice on millennial movements, men's lifestyle fads, and dating trends. (And that’s just her free time.)

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